Reasons Why You're Still Single
Andrew Walker
Updated on March 29, 2026
3. You Need to Put It Out to the Universe! Like many other women, I started declaring my life plans to the Universe when I was about five years old. Before I even knew what marriage was, it definitely topped the list. Most of my girlfriends share my determination and are pretty vocal about what they want. This is why I think telling a woman that she's single because she lacks a connection with the universe is not only confusing but frustrating as well.
4. You Have to Keep Trying! If keeping up with all your messages on Tinder and OkCupid, going out on countless bad dates, and getting back out there after a rough breakup isn't trying, I don't know what is. Most single women I know are trying, even when it's really hard, and I think it's quite unproductive to tell them otherwise.
5. You're Too Fabulous to Settle Down. Does this mean some single women are more fabulous than folks who have already "settled down?" Probably not. People who say things like this mean well, but they're not helping much.
I love the tone Eckel uses throughout this book and think her realistic attitude toward singleness is quite refreshing. No, being single doesn't always feel fun (neither does marriage), but we don't have to exhaust ourselves and treat it like a mystery that needs to be solved. The truth is, we can't always explain why life is the way it is, singleness included. Instead, we can savor the good times, learn from the hard times, and be kind to ourselves at all times. These are lessons that every woman, single or married, can benefit from learning.
So while I totally wish I could have read this book a few years ago, I definitely got a lot out of it a few weeks ago. If you've heard some of the above phrases one too many times, I strongly recommend you check it out as well. It might help to be reminded that you are not alone.
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Akirah Robinson is a breakup coach and writer who helps women pursue healthy relationships. Learn more about her at akirahrobinson.com.
