Relationship Advice: Should You Confess to Cheating; What to Do After Kissing Another Guy

Well, first things first, I think it's pretty clear you need to break up with your boyfriend. You already know you messed up by cheating on him, and you feel awful, so I'm not going to berate you any more than you probably are doing to yourself. But perhaps the even bigger problem than your one-time kiss is just the fact that you don't seem excited by him in the way you are excited by this new guy. Granted, newer crushes are always a little more exciting than long relationships, but you've only been with your boyfriend for a few months! I don't think if you really were into him you'd be so quick to hang out with a new guy you'd just met. If that's the case, I'm inclined to say you should just end the relationship and spare him the additional pain of knowing you cheated on him. But, if you've known him for two years and have lots of mutual friends and you think he'll find out anyway, honesty (with a major apology) might be the best policy. Either way, the point is, you need to end it.

One thing to caution you with here is that I'm not saying you should break up with your boyfriend for this new guy. Although it definitely sounds like he's into you and you guys will probably be tempted to hook up once you're single, he's told you he doesn't want a relationship, and I think you should take him at face value on that. So don't expect to jump from your current boyfriend to a new one, because you could end up pretty disappointed. But it's definitely not fair to stay with your current boyfriend just because this other guy might not want a relationship. Cut him loose, and then go enjoy being single and kissing any guy you want, or go find a guy who makes you so excited to be his girlfriend, you aren't tempted by other guys.

What do you guys think? Is there any point in trying to mend her relationship with her boyfriend, or do you agree that it can't be saved? Should she confess or keep the kiss a secret? And what do you think will happen with the other guy?

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