Would You Rather Have a Big Fake Diamond or a Tiny Real Diamond? (This Reader Is Bummed About Her Cubic Zirconia!) Plus, 12 Inexpensive Engagement Rings!

Uh oh. This reader is feeling lukewarm about her engagement ring ...

Writes Save the Date reader Shelly:

I was thrilled when my boyfriend of almost five years recently proposed—but I'm less than thrilled with the ring. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he was so proud of picking it out on his own, but to be honest, I'm disappointed. Mainly with the stone, which is a cubic zirconia.

Neither of us has a lot of money right now (he's finishing up school) so I understand that he couldn't afford an over-the-top dream ring. But I wish he had picked out a small diamond instead of a bigger cubic zirconia. Am I being superficial? Will people be able to tell the difference when they see my ring?

I love my new fiancee and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him. I guess I just have to get used to the ring! What do you think?

Here are my thoughts:

I don't care if your guy's budget was $50 or $5,000—if you're not happy with the ring for whatever reason, I think you should speak up!

I'd just say, "After wearing my ring for a few days, it still doesn't feel like 'me.' I love you so much—I'd like to have a ring I love, too. Can we pick out a new one together?"

I don't think most people will be able to tell your ring has a cubic zirconia, but I understand why it bugs you, anyway. Most girls want an engagement ring that will last forever, and the quality of inexpensive jewelry often doesn't feel long-lasting. If you'd be okay with a different style of CZ, there are tons of lovely options on the super-cheap. (The second one below made my jaw drop!)

Engagement Ring 1: Cubic Zirconia Ring from Last Call by Neiman Marcus, $68